The attitude of "that's just how I am, take it or leave it" is a sign of immaturity. As an adult, it's your responsibility to figure out which of your trait are toxic and are negatively impactful towards other people and the ones you love and to eventually learn how to fix them. At some point, we all going to start making ourselves a better individual.
If you genuinely believe you don't have to change anything about yourself, even at the least the worst in you, and that people will just have to deal with it, then sorry, you're still a child.